Breaking Free

[Lutonya M. Lang]

How do I break free from a man I have been with for years? I have a child by him and I love him. But I got saved and I want to do what God requires. I need HELP.

We are connected on so many levels. how do I disconnect to reconnect to GOD?

[Rena]

Prayer and petition.... God will do the rest....

Communicate your feelings to him and if he truly loves you he will understand and grow with you or you will grow without him.

God doesn't put anymore on us then we can handle.

[Rena]

Taken from Purpose Driven Life Daily Devoational for today 12/3/2008


Whose Battle Is It?
by Rick Warren

“But you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the Lord’s victory. He is with you, O people of Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out there tomorrow, for the Lord is with you!” 2 Chronicles 20:17 (NLT)
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In today’s passage, God is talking to King Jehoshaphat and the Israelites. They’re about to be attacked by three enemies: the Moabites, the Ammonites, and the Meunites.

Jehoshaphat had to be worried about how his people could defend themselves in such a battle, but God knew exactly what Jehoshaphat was thinking. He said, “You will not have to fight in this battle.” Now, that’s the kind of battle I like!

What God tells Jehoshaphat in this passage, and what he would remind us today, is this: “The battle is not yours; it’s mine. You don’t have to fight in it.”

In other words, it’s God’s problem. Let him solve it.

The fact is if you are God’s child, then your problems are his problems. And he’s much better at fighting your battles and solving your problems than you will ever be. Your job is to trust him to work it all out. Perhaps the reason we have so many tired, fatigued, and discouraged Christians is because we think, “It all depends on me.”

The day you resign as General Manager of the Universe, you’re going to find that it doesn’t fall apart. You can relax in faith, trusting that God is able to run things without your help.

Twice in this passage it says, “Don’t be afraid,” and “Don’t be discouraged.” When you face a seemingly impossible situation, don’t be afraid and don’t be discouraged. Has God ever lost a battle? No. He doesn’t lose battles.

There’s an important phrase in verse 17. God tells Jehoshaphat, “Take your positions and stand firm.” What does it mean to stand firm? It means to have a mental attitude of quiet confidence. It is never God’s will for you to run from a difficult situation. I’ve discovered that when I run from a difficult situation, inevitably God always brings it back around and gives me another chance. Why?

Because God wants us to learn – and he wants to teach us through experience – that in every situation he is sufficient. He is competent and capable and he will meet our needs in that situation. Don’t be afraid; fear is the opposite of faith.

You stand firm on two things:

The character of God – He’s faithful. He does not bring us this far just to let us down. He doesn’t bring you out on a limb and then cut off the limb. Have faith in the nature andcharacter of God.

The truth of his Word – God’s Word is faithful. You can count on the promises found in the Bible.

Stand still. Remember Who the battle belongs to. Trust that he is able to deliver you. And then watch him do it!

[Rena]

Today's Daily Devontionals are on the money with what you are experiencing. Here's another, Joel & Victoria Olsteen... Not sure if you are married but I think this still applies to all relationships...

Win Them by Your Actions

Today's Scripture

“…your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over” (1 Peter 3:1b NLT).

Today's Word from Joel and Victoria

Oftentimes, we try to “win” people over by telling them all about what we know or explain how they should act. We may have good intentions and really want to help people, but in reality, it’s our life of excellence and integrity that speaks to the hearts of others.

In this particular scripture, Peter is talking to women who received salvation after they were married and had husbands who were not yet believers; but the message still applies to every believer. The first thing people should notice about us is our love, patience, kindness, gentleness, strength, and joy. When they see the difference Christ has made in our lives, they will want what we have. The scripture says it’s God’s kindness that leads people to repentance, not nagging. So, let your light shine, be fun to hang around, be good-natured, be kind. You are the salt of the earth. Make people thirsty for what you have. Behind the scenes, pray for their salvation and be ready to share the message of the gospel when the time is right. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Be an example of God’s love so you can effectively win others to Him!

A Prayer for Today

Father in heaven, thank You for Your kindness which leads people to repentance. Help me display Your characteristics of love and goodness so that others will turn to You. Thank You for choosing to use me. I surrender every area of my life to You. In Jesus’ Name.

[Divine Beginnings Marriage Ministry]

Well sis in order for me to really advise you on your dilemma there are some questions that I really would need an answer to. But I will assume 1 or 2 answers from your dilemma. I am guessing that you were never married to him and that you are not a victim of abuse in the relationship. And let me make it perfectly clear to you if you do not know that there are other dynamics of domestic abuse other than just physical, calling you out of your name, cheating, isolation, throwing things, intimdation, threatenings, emotional abuse etc... If none of this is going on then why do you want to leave him? In my line of work and personal experience a toxic relationship will push or draw one into a personal relationship with God and salvation. We often just do not know how bad things are until we realize God wants better for us. The bible teaches that if a woman or man marries before salvation and one gets saved and if the one that is not saved wants to continue in the relationship than you are not to leave but help to nurture them into the same relationship that you have with God by Godly expressions and obedience. But if the unsaved mate does not want to stay then let them go. However, if you are not married to him this does not apply to you. Second, if the relationship does not line up with God's order of a marriage covenant and it is very much toxic and unsafe saved or not married or not you need to leave. If you are single and playing house you have a decision to make. Is this what God wants for me? I understand as well that there is a child involved and unfortunately he or she will suffering right along with us from the consequences of our actions out of God's will but you cannot fall to the trap of thinking that its best that you remain with his father if it is not a healthy environment. My suggestion to you is that you go to God in prayer and lay out your whole heart to him and watch for his leadership in ways of reading the Word of God, church services, bible study, selecting a seasoned woman as a prayer partner and begin to end every act in your life that does not line up with God's way. God will walk you through this. Remember no weapon formed against you shall prosper.
The marriage ministry God has given myself and my husband and we will be on the radio in Chicago, WBGX The Big Gospel Express 1570 am, beginning Dec 8, 2008 at 10:30-11:00 every Monday, listen in or call. I will be praying for you.