How do I Balance?

[Lutonya M. Lang]

How do I balance being single and wanting a mate?

[Lutonya M. Lang]

me in balancing being single and wanting to have a mate at some point is been interesting

I have devoted myself now to God, my son, and my work so now sometimes i do think of a mate but then i get busy with the things God has required for me to do

One thing I am learning while single is to enjoy it. There are some things you have to learn while you are single and when it is time for God to reveal to that MAN who you are for him then you will be ready. Once you get married then there will be other things you will perfect

so it is best to balance yourself now. Because once you have a family it is a whole other story.

[Day-Day]

Ha! Desires, hopes, dreams, reality, uncertainties, unassured, emotions, patience, impulse, common, longings, passion, sight, thoughts!

Now, trying to weigh the good and bad of the above has been difficult! For I am in war with my flesh! There's many things that I face in secret that I had to learn to lean and depend on the love and word of God! You know, the need to belong, feel safe and secure, to long to be affirmed by your mate, consistantly run through my mind. Open visions and dreams, hopes.....ALL CAN STIR and wake up a part of me that should cease until the bells ring and with exchanging of vows.

My balance comes from my focus, accountablity partners and acquiring the mindset to be and possess the things of God, HIS WAY! This is not easy to accept all the time, nor does the things of God come easy! I had to allow the process to begin! Any time you do things habitually for a period of time, they don't die off quickly. Especially soul-ties (emotional and sexual).

I had to recognize and deal with some things. Be real with self and what I want versus what I know to be the "right " thing to do and want. You know, saved people are supposed to be XY and Z, but I had to confront my my usaved and unruly part of me, my flesh! I had to review over my resume of experiences and see how my "trends" or cycles surfaces/resurfaces and affect me. Basically, I had to do some real inward (soul) searching!

This helped me to understand what tempts me and of course, God has to strip me (continuously) of my ideas that are tainted and plant in me the mind of hihis mind. I had to pray the soecifics (stablize my emotions, etc) and decree, declare his consistent covering of the blood on me. I had to exchange my focus with the things of him. Such as achieving goals, businesses, and becoming WHOLE IN HIM!

This takes a lot of prayer, fasting, consencration, and diving in the word of God, and on a continuum. I realized that when I stopped doing what I needed to do, I would become subject to the enemy's thoughts/tactics. Once you open yourself to your desires solely, you welcome all kinds of things to come into your life!

[LacyPoo]

very well stated dadria

Day-Day said:

Ha! Desires, hopes, dreams, reality, uncertainties, unassured, emotions, patience, impulse, common, longings, passion, sight, thoughts!

Now, trying to weigh the good and bad of the above has been difficult! For I am in war with my flesh! There's many things that I face in secret that I had to learn to lean and depend on the love and word of God! You know, the need to belong, feel safe and secure, to long to be affirmed by your mate, consistantly run through my mind. Open visions and dreams, hopes.....ALL CAN STIR and wake up a part of me that should cease until the bells ring and with exchanging of vows.

My balance comes from my focus, accountablity partners and acquiring the mindset to be and possess the things of God, HIS WAY! This is not easy to accept all the time, nor does the things of God come easy! I had to allow the process to begin! Any time you do things habitually for a period of time, they don't die off quickly. Especially soul-ties (emotional and sexual).

I had to recognize and deal with some things. Be real with self and what I want versus what I know to be the "right " thing to do and want. You know, saved people are supposed to be XY and Z, but I had to confront my my usaved and unruly part of me, my flesh! I had to review over my resume of experiences and see how my "trends" or cycles surfaces/resurfaces and affect me. Basically, I had to do some real inward (soul) searching!

This helped me to understand what tempts me and of course, God has to strip me (continuously) of my ideas that are tainted and plant in me the mind of hihis mind. I had to pray the soecifics (stablize my emotions, etc) and decree, declare his consistent covering of the blood on me. I had to exchange my focus with the things of him. Such as achieving goals, businesses, and becoming WHOLE IN HIM!

This takes a lot of prayer, fasting, consencration, and diving in the word of God, and on a continuum. I realized that when I stopped doing what I needed to do, I would become subject to the enemy's thoughts/tactics. Once you open yourself to your desires solely, you welcome all kinds of things to come into your life!

[LacyPoo]

I'm really just now learning to balance. I knew I had to get busy, but the thought of my mate was never out of my mind. I found myself going to places just hoping he'd find me there ( or truthfully, hoping I'd find him .) I found I wasn't fruitful in ministry or business (later realizing it was because my motive was all wrong)I'd come home dissapointed, irritated, and annoyed. It was almost to the point where I was going to give up all outside activities, but God being God brought my focus back to him. It wasn't easy, and I've discovered is an everyday process. I have to keep reminding myself that's it's not about me, it never was, and never will be. Honestly, I've never been a person who enjoyed being single, yet even when I was dating someone, I found myself alone.

I want to be in love, and know what's it's like for someone to truly be in love with me. But I'm learning that those desires will consume and overtake me if I don't protect myself with the armor of God's word. Changing my focus is what's helping me get balanced.

[Divine Beginnings Marriage Ministry]

When you come to realize that marriage for a woman is not just being taken care of or receiving a trophy that says I'm married and NOW I have purpose. When you fully understand that marriage is God's creation and a man and woman in a marriage is symbolic to God's relationship with His children. That as a wife you are called to submit to your husband as unto the Lord which requires that you are first fully submitted unto God and that the husband you agree to marry has a heart for God and that you cannot select this kind of man because it is God's place. You no longer will have to balance being single with wanting a mate. There are so many women and men that wish they had remained content in singleness before putting the cart before the horse. When you really understand that God loves you so much that he gave and that when he is ready He will give you to someone who will love you as he does when you allow him to; you will get busy loving God until he is ready to share you with someone else.